I Sure Could Use Some Advice

I sure could use some advice on how to handle this situation.

I have been in love with a man for almost 16 years now and we have had a great relationship.

We have been together through thick and thin.

A few years ago his  boss passed away and his son sold the business and moved to Germany.

That left my significant other without work , he has been doing odd jobs but refuses a regular job .

I have put up with this for the last 3 years and have been paying the whole shot other than a few

groceries here and there.

I have asked him to get a job and he doesn't don't get me wrong I love him, he treats me well, he does

alot around the house and cooks and cleans but that is not what I asked him to do.

I am so frustrated about this as I love him and can't picture myself with anyone else but it seems he is

not willing to get a job and when I ask he walks away from me and doesn't talk about it.

Any advice?

Mom Has The Measles

 Mother made it 75 years and then got the measles this past week.

They say that the German Measles are known as the 3 day measles, she has had hers for a week now and still covered in spots so I would say she is sporting the Red Measles.

I feel so bad for her,it seems like it has been one thing after another for her as of late.

She is now on the mend and not so itchy and  the spots are clearing up nicely.

Mom was so covered she had them on the palm of her hands and soles of her feet, on her scalp...

She and I never got the chicken pox until my boys got them about 30 years ago.

I am hoping that this will be the last of her health issues for a while, the poor dear .

Have you gotten the measles as an adult or did you get them as a child?

The Heatwave

Well if you lived in Ontario for the last few weeks you know that we have been experiencing a heatwave.

I am happy to say that this morning it finally has broken and the temperature is sitting steady at 21 C and the nice cool breeze is feeling extra special.

I have spent the last few weeks trying to avoid going out in the heat if I could but as we all know that is not possible to stay in for weeks at a time when you have a busy life.

I did however find lots of ways of cooling off.

I took a slide down slide street in Port Hope with my granddaughter, what a fun day that was.
I also went to the beach and over to the splash pad at the park with my granddaughter.
I spent alot of time inside loving the air conditioning.

Today I plan on going outside and going on a long walk now that the air is cooler and there is a lovely breeze.

How did you handle the heatwave?

The Years Sure Fly By!

I can't believe how quickly the years fly by.
My eldest son will be 38 this year and my youngest son 35...just wow!
 I truly am thankful for the blessings the Lord has given me over the years 2 healthy and happy Sons and a beautiful, healthy Granddaughter.
I am blessed to still have my Grandmother and my wonderful Mother.

I volunteer at the local radio station and have my own radio " Wednesdays With Laurie"  8am- 1pm on CKOL Radio 93.7 FM in Campbellford  and 100.7 FM Madoc Ontario .

I volunteer for Community Care doing volunteer driving and also respite care.
My days are quite full and I enjoy the time I share with everyone that touches my life.

I treasure each moment shared with my family, life is too short, don't  waste it...

Fat Shaming People

I was out with a friend shopping yesterday in Madoc Ontario.
We went out to find some clothing that will fit me.

Over the last few years I have been unable to control my weight gain and have an extra 80 pounds on my frame.
I always have had to watch what I eat ( I eat healthy) .
I have a terrible time dealing with my poor body image thanks to being teased as a child and teen about my weight.
After being so careful about my weight it was heart breaking to watch the weight gain and being unable to do anything about it.
I have a thyroid disorder that is not yet under control, I have medication adjustments every three months and will until my blood levels are satisfactory to my doctor.

Back to the shopping incident...

I was in a store with my friend and mentioned that my capris were falling down I said I didn't think they were too tight maybe just a bit loose, then a woman I was not even speaking to piped up " Well you need to lose weight and are just not willing to admit it or do anything about it!"
As she pushed by me with a disgusted look on her face.
Not only was I shocked that she said this I was hurt.
I know what I look like and can't stand even looking at myself , I hate getting dressed each day and shopping for clothes both of these things drive me to tears on a good day.
I went out that day due to being upset and needing something that fit and my friend was trying to cheer me up.
Very hard to go from a size 10 to a size 22 (3x) and have everyone judge you when you eat or drink anything or just by walking by them these days.
I never said a word to that woman standing there judging me on my appearance as I know I would have cried (too sensitive? I can't seem to help it, as this was not the first insult of the day I had shot my way.)


I am crying as I am writing this post and didn't sleep all night thinking of how rude she was and mad that I didn't say something back to her  and hating myself even more.
I didn't find anything to fit that would hide my belly so I have to go out again and the prospect of that is making me ill just thinking of it.

How do I learn to harden my heart to all the hateful, hurtful comments I have had directed at me as of late?
Even when my meds level my blood out, I still have the task of losing all of this weight which seems hopeless.

I find I am struggling just to get up each day as I hate to have to find something to wear and try to face the world .
How do I deal with this?
I pray daily for the Lord to heal me and I stick to a strict diet and the doctor tells me I don't eat enough...very hard to want to eat when I know I have to try to fit into my dress tomorrow...again.

I can't even walk video

 What a beautiful video I just had to share with you all today.

I Can't  Even Walk
Posted by Carmen Gainey Hodge on Sunday, July 19, 2015

Drive-in Opens This Weekend!

The Havelock Family Drive-in opens this weekend for the season and I am so excited!
I have my beautiful little earth angel for the weekend and  there is going to be  a child appropriate movie on and  I plan on taking her to her first drive-in movie!

The movies they are playing this weekend are Home, this is the child friendly movie about an alien on the run the stops by Earth sounds cute!

Furious 7 is also on as well as Unfriended.

I imagine she will be sleeping before the end of the first movie so will bring be able to watch the other two movies if I can stay awake lol.